Most of us who grew up in Czech/Slovakia or were raised by Czech/Slovak parents were raised quite strictly. There were rules and if you failed to follow them there was punishment. Sometime it was the wooden spoon, sometimes the belt and sometimes the smack on the head or one got grounded for a long, long time….. Different households had different rules but most agreed with one thing: no one wanted to have a spoiled brat in their home.
Now that you have your own children (or are planning to have them), how are YOU raising them?
CZ: Vetsina z nas, Cechu a Slovaku, byla vychovana dosti striktne. Pravidla se musela dodrzovat a kdyz se nedodrzovala, zacaly litat facky. Kazda domacnost trestala jinym zpusobem, ale jednu vec meli spolecnou: nikdo totiz nechtel mit doma rozmazleneho haranta. Jak vychovavate (nebo planujete vychovavat) VASE deti?
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Hmm, are you sure it’s a nationality thing? My parents are completely Czech and they’ve never been strict with me, they believe one should learn from your mistakes and always let me make my decisions quite freely even as a child. And they have never ever beaten me, I can’t even believe someone would hit their child wioth a wooden spoon, that’s crazy!
Bitter Chocolate,
a little waterboarding is ok 😉
sorry you guys! Now the poll should work 🙂
We would used to get the slap on the hand or the thigh when we were naughty and it worked. The point is that the one that does the slap needs to be in control of his emotions. If the parent is out of control angry with the child then that’s a problem; but if he has his emotions under control, explains him why he is getting punished (and that he is still being loved) the child benefits in a long run – at least we did.
I explained my kids that life sucks and is not fair.
At the same time i tought them to try to make the life more fair and less sucking. They learned to respect me not for beating them but for knowing, that I was always right. They respected me so much that I had to encourage them to try to disagree with me sometimes… And instead of punishing them , I let them to fail on their own, … this is the best education….. it will make them prepared much better for the life that will expect them in the new Socialist USA 😉 or short: SUSA ;D
Yeah, but you cannot be ALWAYS right, that’s impossible! That’s why it is good to to practice words like “I don’t know” even though it makes you feel vulnerable at times. It is good to feed the humble spirit at times 😉
By the way, I like SUSA a lot!! :))
Growing up in a czech household, we just respected our parents. We were never beaten or bribed. We never got rewards for being good. We were just ‘good’ because that was expected of us.
Unfortunately, I don’t know how my parents did it, coz my son is a real spoiled brat!
Hi Veronika,
That’s crazy! You must have been just really good kids – I mean you must have had that “good kid” gene (which your child unfortunately did not inherit :)!
Your parents didn’t even yell at you???
One parent dad would sometimes slap us upside the head. We would get a spanking only if we did not follow the 3 strikes your out rule. My dad would give you three chances. Obey him the first time he says whatever the second is a little sterner but the third is your last chance. If we did not obey our mom it would be same, she would say i am calling your father we would just jump. Another thing would be criticisms, my brother and I would never do anything right, we would have to listen to “You should do something right the first time” But at eight and ten you do not have the same life experience and they do not tell you how do things anything. They were really strict too. I have never had to be called to the principals office and always had an E(xcellant) for my behavior. Still do this day I do not like evaluations/critiques b/c I take it too personally but I do have a high tolerance of criticism. If I have children I would tell them I love you and give them hugs. In our family we do not do or say things like that but we do say “Budte opatrny” if driving somewhere. The church I go is very “huggy” at the welcome time so I sometimes dread it.
Hi Jana,
yes, we would get the slapping on the head too…it was very degrading, if you ask me.
Your comment ‘my brother and I would never do anything right’ is very common with Czech parents (at least in the past it was). I guess they mean well, trying to push you harder to do better, but c’mon, how about some praise??
Hello all,
I think it is important to be strict with our kids.
My parents were cool and not sure how they did it but we did respect them and listen. It took only my mom’s look and I knew what it means.
I just became mom and I am planning to be strict with my son specially here in US. It is crazy when parents let do kids what they want — kids need order and need listen adults not the other way around. I hope I can be strong about this because I hate spoiled kids.
I completely agree with you – I hate spoiled kids too!
I just think that together with being strict one should not forget to give praises as well.
Gabriela, I am with you – I hate spoiled kids. I think it is important to have rules and discipline. Having said that – my father was very heavy handed and most of the times – looking back – it was unnecessary. I hope to be strict, but as Tanja says – I want my kids to know I love them even as I berate them. I don’t want them to be ever scared of me the way I was of my dad. I think praise and encouragement is very important (not bribery).
Sorry, I don’t have you worries.. I even did not noticed how quickly my children became orderly citizens and well respected fellows …Unfortunately, they respect me so much that sometimes I force them to disagree with me… sometimes I wish they were more rebelious ….