Sue is my fellow blogging buddy from Atlanta (sueczech.wordpress.com) who happens to be married to a Czech guy. I asked her if she would be nice enough to jot down some thoughts about this Czech experience from her point of view and here is what she wrote: (great story! Thank you Sue!!)
CZ: Jake to je byt Americankou vdanou za Cecha? Sue – moje blogarska kamoska – je jednou z techto zen. Poprosila jsem ji, zda-li by nam o tomto celozivotnim zazitku mohla neco prozradit….
SUE’S STORY
I’ve known my husband for 10 years, and in that time I’ve seen him grow from very Czech, to very American, and now to a happy medium of the two.
The first Czech I saw in him is when we initially met. He was young, skinny, hyper, and barely knew English. He had this lust for life about him that included the American Dream. He dressed in expensive clothes, tried to impress me with name brand gifts, and always had to show me what he bought with all the money he was making. He didn’t talk much about home although I asked all the time. The only thing I knew about the Czech Republic was to not call it Czechoslovakia.
In the next few years of dating, I saw him go closer and closer to the American way and all but recant his Czech citizenship. He wanted so much to be an American, although I kept accenting on how it’s important for him to be Czech in America rather than be American with a Czech upbringing. He has to maintain his individuality and personality, and not follow the herd of Americans on what’s cool and what’s not. But he was young, he had a tight upbringing where they didn’t have much… and suddenly, he’s making great money in the United States. He lived it up.
The only other Czechs I knew were his friends. I understood the culture of drinking beer, eating chlebicky, and sitting around talking til 2am. Then I met his mother. Finally, I understood who he was. His mom, 100%. I think at that moment, I realized that his ways were not Czech ways, they were simply genetics.
I still still in the dark about who Czechs really were.
But then 2 years ago, we (including daughter) all went to Czech to visit his home town. Suddenly, the people, sights, sounds, culture absolutely exploded for me. The more I spoke to these people (especially by the second visit) the more I understood him.
My husband has funny Czech sayings, he loves to watch fairy tales, and he absolutely has to be outside at least 2 hours every day. He always wanted me to cook as fresh as possible and never understood how I can go to the grocery store only once a week. He loves to gossip with his buddies.. and they’re worse than the girls. He’s a work-a-holic and he’s dedicated to taking care of his family. He’s not below of bugging the crap out of his friends to find work if his current job is going slow.
I realized many Czechs are this way… and it was an epiphany for me. I came back to America a little less American. Suddenly, being American wasn’t such a proud thing to be. We’re so behind the times even in the middle of our technology boom. We lost touch with ourselves and our neighbors. Many of us can’t smell rain before it pours down. We don’t know how to garden or how to take care of our own home. We sit far from each other at parks or avoid each other’s gazes while walking past. Or hell, we may not walk at all!
Being married to a Czech man has increased my awareness of how different cultures are, how to stop identifying myself as an American and becoming more human.
And he also taught me how to make the greatest thing on Earth:
KRUPICE!!!!
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Awww! Thanks for posting this! I should do a cross post with you on what it’s like to be married to an American man! Would you do it?
By the way.. the website is sueczech.wordpress.com π
No, thank you! What an interesting story…I will definitely return you your favors π
Thank you for this story. I am also married to a Czech man and a lot of the things you have described when first meeting him was exactly the same as me. I also went to visit his home and you do realize that Europe is so very different than America! I love CZ so much and I miss my mother in law! I realize how so fast pace it is in America, and how every so nice it is to stop and smell the roses every once in a while. Again, thanks for the post.
Hi,thanks for sharing this story! I am also married to a Czech man, but am living in the Czech Republic. I can readily relate to all the things you mentioned–as I am living them every day! It is a wonderful adventure to be living here and experiencing Europe. I have the best of both world–Old and New!! Thanks again for this post!!
Hi Sher,
that would be a great contrast to write about! If you are interested in writing us a little story about how is it to be married to a Czech guy AND living in Czech that would be great! Please, contact me if you would like to do that (I hope you say yes!)
Tanja
Hi. Being of Czech origin and, before she died, married for many years to a Czech woman, I appreciate Sue’s story. But I do not understand what’s so great about “krupice”. I can understand knedlΓky (even my son does) and buchty and the way us Czechs prepare cabbage, but krupice?
N.B. You have been to Czecho more recently than I: Are Czechs now as obese as many Americans?
Svato
Krupice is the best! I guess it holds more of a sentimental feeling for me as it reminds me of my childhood. But even with all of the sentiment aside, it is definitely a comfort food and I LOVE comfort food..hmmmmm
I do find a lot of Czech food fantastic, but I had eaten them already in some form. The dumplings, goulash, etc.. but krupice was an entirely new form of food. I mean, reducing semolina with milk? Who would’ve thunk it!? It’s sweet, melts in your mouth, and as Tanja says.. very comforting.
I didn’t find Czechs to be obese at all. The babickas, yes, but no one really under the age of 50. However, for me, this observation was made near Ostrava and Opava.. I don’t know about anywhere else.
I think Sue summed up my experiences being married to a Czech man best with this sentence:
“I came back to America a little less American.”
Thank you Tanja and Sue.
I am a Czech man and reading all those posts I feel quite flattered. But don’t think only American women love us!! It does not have anything to do with American-Czech differences. My wife is not American neither Czech and when she starts describing Czech men, I feel very loved and adored.
My kids are already grown-ups and guess what food they like me to cook? : “Dukatove buchticky s vanilovou omackou”……
What????? You can make dukatove buchticky s vanilovou omackou??????? Your kids are so lucky!! If that is the only thing they keep from the Czech culture then then they are set π
can you share the recipe???
It is a wonderful story. Here is a question.I am a woman from an Asian country, now studying at a Univetsity in America, and I have a Czech classmate. He is a nice guy. But recently, when we went to some parties with some classmates, sometimes he touched my hair. One time when we sat on the carpet talking about something , he patted my knees. I think I like him, or maybe this kind of feeling will develop into love. But I am not sure what he thinks of me. Does his behaviour mean he love me? I want to get your help. Could you reply to my email? Thank you.
Hi Jane,
sounds like he likes you! It is always good to ask just to make sure…
Jane,
my answer would be: I had touched hair of one girl and it did not develop into love. I had touched hair of another girl and now I have been married to her 32 years. And don’t worry, he does not think of you anything bad. He is just showing you he likes you.
Don’t analyze it too much. Use you heart, not head and don’t expect miracles…
Thank you all for the reply. Yes, I prefer to analyze too much, because I think there is too much cultural difference between my Czech classmate and me.
Yesterday, we went to lunch after class. And he said he welcome me to visit Czech someday and live at his house. I can have my own room and we can go for travelling around Europe. And everytime afere lunch he insisted on buying me coffee. I don’t know. I think he likes me , but I am not sure…Maybe I got him wrong. I can’t ask him directly. That is not good.I am troubled. SO PLEAS HELP me.
Yes, Jane he likes you. Go with the flow. He’s a man and men are the same all around the world (more or less!) they like women.
Good blog, Tanja. I just found it and am hooked!
Jane, let him to buy the coffe….You are not obliged to anything….To make him happy, buy him a beer.
Yes Jane, I agree with both Veronika and Vlastimil…your situation looks pretty good!! :))
PS: By the way, Vlastimil, did you find that ‘dukatove buchticky recipe’?? Maybe you could guest post on CMD with it!!
And thank you Veronika! I am glad you like my blog π
Tanja, mimochodem, ja znam nekolik Cesek (neprimo) π
Pokusim se z nich vymamit ten recept na dukatove buchticky, nejak si to proste nepamatuju….
Jinak na slovenskem webu jsem nasel tento recept:
Koupime vanocku, rozkrajime na kosticky a zalejeme rozredenym vanilkovym pudingem
Thank you guys. Actually, my situation doesn’t look good, because our study here in America will end up in June and he will come back to his country at the end of June. I don’t know his feelings but I know I like him now. He is hard-working and I think he is also a faithful man. He has a girlfriend in Czech. But he seldom talks about his girlfriend. And he just mentioned that he doesn’t believe in the love-at-first-sight. He developed his relations with his girlfriend from acquatiance to friend and then to lover. So maybe what he said and did just shows that he is interested in me, i know it is impossible for us to get together. I remember he always said I am like his mother. It is sad now to think about all these things. We had many happy moments together, but it is sad to keep these memories in mind. We are planning to drive to Lake Tahoe together with a American woman and her boyfriend. Because I like that place and he said he will go there with me. I do hope we stay toghther for a long time. But…..In Buddhism, there is the past life, the present life and the future life. I hope what happened in our past lives, so I can’t be with him for a long time. Just like a punishment. Now all I can do is waiting for the time to say goodbye. It is hard…I am lucky to share my feelings here on this blog and can get reponse from the kind-hearted people.
Sometimes I caught him watching me intently. I feel a bit nervous but also happy. But soon it will come to the end.
Jane,
the past life is already behind you. If you miss your chance in this present life, maybe you will get more luck in your future life… Even if we are kind-hearted people, I know, that at least me, I cannot help you. This is a situation that only you can resolve … One thing I can tell you…in order to develop a healthy love affair, there must be at least two people willing to participate …
He has a girlfriend. I can do nothing. I didn’t expect I would like a man from a different culture. And even the great diffreence in looks. He has blonde hair, blue eyes and I have black hair and black eyes. And I even become a liitle superstitious now because of him. Because he told me he is a Capricon, so I think maybe the feeling I have for him is totally impossible. So, what I can do now is to give up.
Haha, this is funny – both the post and the discussion below it. π My wife’s Aussie, I’m Czech, and I think it’s a great mix – somewhat more exciting, even after the 3 and half years together – we still have these little misunderstanding, caused by the difference in upbringing and culture. Like we’re taught to wash hands vigorously before each meal, while Aussies seem to wash them only before the most complicated brain surgery (if they don’t forget) … just an example. :))) I was amused when the prime minister here had a speech for the news, advising Aussies to wash their hands with soap, as a response and prevention for the swine flu :))))) Seriously, come on. :)) And this could go on and on. I love it and I think so does me wifey. π
Jane, I’m not sure how your story ended, whether you got together with the guy or not, but I must say it wouldn’t surprise me if he was really very much attracted to you. For some reason, I’m noticing, a lot of Czech guys seem to have huge interest in Asian girls, especially when they’re overseas, not so much at home in the Czech Republic. I wonder why is that? π I’ve met lots and lots of couples like that. There must be something about yous! π
Wow, so you are Czech and the wifey is Australian! That’s a new one! Maybe you could write a little guest post about that? It sounds like you got stories to tell…:))
I think it’s because Asian ladies tend to be hard-workers, like us Czech girls :))
Tanja> Yes, there would be a few, I’ll see if I can write anything down though – very busy at the moment π Keep up the good work, I’ll check your blog every now and then. π
Or you can subscribe :)) (You get a bunch of goodies with it and won’t miss anything)
Thanks for the info. Where could I find the requirements of marrying a Czech lady
hi everyone! i have the same question as jane π i met this thoughtful czecho almost 2 years ago in malaysia…he invited me for dinner and we had great conversation…and sweet moments…since we had our own itineraries during that trip, we parted but met again in singapore a few days later…but only saw each other for a day…
we had only been in touch mostly by e-mail for the last year and a half. i write him stuff about things i do at work and things that bother me…and i ask him for some advice. he usually responds with short e-mails …sometimes something funny or sweet but nothing ever passionate or intimate…
last july he suddenly came up with this idea for us to meet in Bali Indonesia ( he had a conference there that he did not attend)…(at one point I told him about my trip to Bali and I remarked that it would have been fun to go there again with him)….so we planned and we met (we just had our trip a couple a week and a half ago)…we had a fun really enjoyable time together…althought there were moments that his “lecturing” pissed me off and i think he noticed i got upset…but we were fine for the most part π
a couple of times he told me we were friends…but when we were going around shopping he would refer to us as an ”indonesian couple’….
the set up is confusing…i think it is safe to say he kinda likes me…we kiss…but hmmmm i am terribly afraid he might just have been having fun and enjoying the trip…..he brought me many sweet gifts from prague and he did for some part pick up the bill…which i did not expect since i read that czechs are thrifty ( so i came prepared π ) we tried to be intimate but for some reason i think we were both either tired or well trying to measure each other’s reactions….i guess my asian nature got the better of me as i was being careful….i don’t know if he has a girlfriend and i am terribly afraid to ask….
when we parted i told him i was set off to meet a male friend (another friend’s nephew) in malaysia and he asked me “are you going to say hello to him as you say hello to me?” and i said “no”….when he was sending sms back home to czech he kept saying he was sending sms to his mom and sister….was he beig defensive or was he trying to tell me he had no gf? he told me he was very close to his family…i did not notice him buy anything extremely special for a girl…he was always buying stuff for his ma, sis and nephews….nor did we sort of leave each other’s side for a moment as he seemed extremely reluctant to….but guys can be sneaky hahaha
I read that czechos do not have qualms about cheating…could he have meant to cheat on a gf while with me? I like him and it’s wishful thinking that maybe we will like each other more…
Confused,
G
ok so after reading a lot of the posts on this blog, I am quite sure you all will enjoy reading this. I am an indian girl studying in the US. I was seriously dating a czech guy five years ago(we studied in UK together) who recently came back into my life after our relationship fell out (due to long distance and other issues not based on our compatibilty). Now, I am going to be visiting him and his family in Prague for the first time this winter and hopefully, if all goes well, we will decide to take things forward soon after that. I am absolutely in love with him and he is the most adorable and the nicest guy I’ve ever met. I’ve been having mixed feelings about moving to Prague after I graduate from here given my cultural background. I do not know czech but am willing to learn. I have read on several forums online that czech people arent very friendly with foreigners looking to work and live in the country. Does anybody on this forum have any suggestions for me?
Hi Anvita! and welcome to the Czech world π Don’t worry, if you are going to be living in Prague there is no reason for you to feel uneasy. Prague is a very culturally diverse and cosmopolitan city and you can truly meet just about any kind of nationality there. The country people may be less used to different nationalities but even then the ‘unfriendly kind’ is far less common.
I feel a little bit like Jane…
I’m Latin and I’ve been living in the U.S. for many years. I’ve recently met a Czech guy in college and I am head over heels for him. He is sweet, smart, nice, good looking, funny, masculine, etc, etc. I always wonder if he likes me, because Latin men are very aggressive and they tell you right away to your face that you are beautiful and this and that, etc. But with this Czech guy, I don’t know what to think, things are progressing very slowly but he finally invited me to go out with him and his friends. I really don’t know how direct Czech guys are, but I read somewhere that they are indeed very direct… but this guy is not direct at all, so I always doubt he likes me. I believe that everything happens for a good reason and I trust in God (different set of believes than Jane)… so I will leave it up to God. But, I’m happy to have met him and I hope to learn more about him and his culture, and if nothing happens, at least now I understand why women can get crazy about Czechs.
Hi Sofia, good attitude! That way you won’t get your hart broken if worse comes to worse.
hi everyone!
I love all your stories. my Czech friend and I are still in touch and he remains thoughtful yet very private. he always asks me to send pics which I don’t–it’s my way of trying not to get too involved or hooked. goodluck jane π
Hi Gail, that is a very smart move!
Hi, I’m an Asian girl working in a Czech company, met several Czech guys, hurt by one, and currently in love with one. Czech guys love nature, beer and party. They can be very gentle and romantic. But i have to say they don’t have much sense of loyalty to their partners with the high divorce rate and my own experience as a proof.
The first Czech guy i liked hurt me deeply. He has already been in a relationship for 7 years but still had an intimate and unforgetable year together with me. Then i found out how he was cheating to both sides and it broke my heart. He decides to stay with the Czech gf and they are getting married soon.
While i was healing from this i met another Czech guy who’s loving and gentle and smart, and single:) But he’s not the commitment type so i’m still struggling whether to move forward with this one.
Even though my story doesn’t turn out to be perfect romance fairy tale, i still believe there are many good Czech guys. I’ve been to Czech once and it totally amazed me. I would even consider living there for some time:)
HI M!
I say give him an ultimatum. That always works to move things forward. My Czech friend dated a guy for 13 years (Czech guy), hoping he will propose and he never did. They finally broke up. But she was barely young enough to find another guy.Now he is getting married but the groom is Dutch.
hi, its nice story, i met a czech guy last year when he went to my country for studying, he learns my language. he’s nice guy and inteligent, he can plays guitar… and i think i fell in love with him , i think about him everyday, do u think i do ?
if i am fall in love with him how can i confess to him ?
In reading your various blog commentaries it strikes me that I cannot really understand the commentary unless I understand where the author has been. Being a 4th generation Czech-American is a very different perspective from being a Czech who has arrived and is living in America. This is further complicated by the fact that I am an American who is an Ameropean, that is, I have lived in Europe for 14 years and see America and Europe through the eyes of one who has lived extensively on the other side. The result is that I now have major problems appreciating the attitudes of third generation Czech-Americans who have never lived anywhere but their redneck small-town Oklahoma homes – yet they put on their handmade Czech Folk dance costumes and pretend to be the defenders of the Czech culture in America at their small town Czech Festival – which draws over 100,000 people (!!!) because everything else in Oklahoma is so boring and they at least offer something that appears to be authentic to the complete novices from the other small towns. Wish I could talk now with my great grandfather from Milovy, south of Pardubice, to find out what he thought. Dwight
Women in love with Czech guys,
you are unreal stupid ! To chat about czech people by this way is perverse.
Hi!
I’ve read several commentaries and found myself in a similar situation to a few. I’m Brazilian and I’ve met a wonderful Czech guy this year. We started as friends – and then become really close friends, as I started to have feelings for him. He was sweet, kind, polite and always respected me (a thing that no man from my country did before, considering the guys from the city I was born in are incredibly rude and disrespectful to their women). As I am very straight-forwarded, I said I liked him, although we only stayed at friendship for some reasons, until he confessed to me as well. If I remember correctly, it was at the time he was having difficult times with his family because of personal reasons I won’t say here, but I tried to help him as much as I could. After that, he simply disappeared – but came back again, saying he really missed me and that he was helping my family, so that’s why he couldn’t see him. It’s weird because he couldn’t even answer a text message? It may sound clingy (or not, I’ve only sent one text message, I’m always afraid of sound clingy :D), but he did answered like… A month later when he came back. And now he disappeared again, should I be concerned? Is he really busy helping his family as he claimed to or that was just an excuse to get rid of me? (which seem weird since he confessed, but who knows).
Thank you for your time!
Very confused and as well hurt,
Lana.
helping his family*
whoops my bad π
Lana,
I’m not Brazilian but I feel almost like one because I know so many Brazilians, I’ve dated a bunch, and I even got divorced from one. I know how it feels when you compare Brazilian men with a Czech guy, and that is why I think this forum is great, because culture influences a lot the way we perceive things. Also, months ago I wrote about a Czech guy, nothing happened with him, but I met another Czech guy through him, and I liked this other guy even more. Being Latin, it was extremely intriguing each time we went out and he acted like a total gentleman, never trying to hit on me, never going overboard trying to tell me how beautiful he thought I was, never saying words Latin or Brazilian men would use such as “gata”, “gostosa”, etc. It was that silence and apparent respect that really intrigued me, but unlike you, I’m very Latin style traditional and never took the first step to tell him that I liked him. Finally, the guy one day say that I looked pretty, and a few weeks later simply asked me to get in a relationship with him.
I was completely amazed by this guy, but I was going through a very difficult moment and I decided to step back from the relationship. After that, I regretted my decision, and soon tried to at least keep a friendship with him, and then that’s when he started acting hot and cold for a while. The point I’m trying to make is that Czech guys act very differently from Brazilian or Latin guys, so it is easy to fall for them. But also, they can act hot and cold and string you along if they want to (like any other men). Their different manners don’t mean that they love you or respect you more than a Latin or Brazilian man, they simply act differently, and can disrespect you in other ways. What I learned is that if this Czech guy had actually taken me seriously and loved me, he would have been happy to resume the relationship, or at least he would’ve been frank and simply tell me that he wasn’t interested anymore. But he would tell me that I was great, beautiful, and had a huge heart, and then ignore me, and then back to being sweet, and then ignore me again.
No matter where a guy is from, Latin, Czech, American, Japanese, etc., when he really loves you he won’t do that to you. A guy who loves you won’t string you along like that. Or maybe, he just feels a small attraction, and that is what he meant by “liking” you. He means that he could kiss you, or lay with you, but not that he has feelings or anything like that. He could, in the future, fall in love with you, who knows, but for now I would just move on. I am now with an amazing guy, and at first he liked me and I just felt a small attraction towards him. I did the same, I didn’t call him back like for a month, and he simply moved on with his life. When I called him back I simply kept him as a friend and after many months I ended up falling for him. But he never for a second stopped living his life and always respected himself. So do the same, move on, enjoy yourself, if he comes back don’t be drooling all over him, just wait and see what happens. If he falls for you, he needs to man-up, and if not then you will find another man soon, believe me, there are plenty out there.
Lana,
I’m not Brazilian but I feel almost like one because I know so many Brazilians, I’ve dated a bunch, and I even got divorced from one. I know how it feels when you compare Brazilian men with a Czech guy, and that is why I think this forum is great, because culture influences a lot the way we perceive things. Also, months ago I wrote about a Czech guy, nothing happened with him, but I met another Czech guy through him, and I liked this other guy even more. Being Latin, it was extremely intriguing each time we went out and he acted like a total gentleman, never trying to hit on me, never going overboard trying to tell me how beautiful he thought I was, never saying words Latin or Brazilian men would use such as “gata”, “gostosa”, etc. It was that silence and apparent respect that really intrigued me, but unlike you, I’m very Latin style traditional and never took the first step to tell him that I liked him. Finally, the guy one day say that I looked pretty, and a few weeks later simply asked me to get in a relationship with him.
I was completely amazed by this guy, but I was going through a very difficult moment and I decided to step back from the relationship. After that, I regretted my decision, and soon tried to at least keep a friendship with him, and then that’s when he started acting hot and cold for a while. The point I’m trying to make is that Czech guys act very differently from Brazilian or Latin guys, so it is easy to fall for them. But also, they can act hot and cold and string you along if they want to (like any other men). Their different manners don’t mean that they love you or respect you more than a Latin or Brazilian man, they simply act differently, and can disrespect you in other ways. What I learned is that if this Czech guy had actually taken me seriously and loved me, he would have been happy to resume the relationship, or at least he would’ve been frank and simply tell me that he wasn’t interested anymore. But he would tell me that I was great, beautiful, and had a huge heart, and then ignore me, and then back to being sweet, and then ignore me again.
No matter where a guy is from, Latin, Czech, American, Japanese, etc., when he really loves you he won’t do that to you. A guy who loves you won’t string you along like that. Or maybe, he just feels a small attraction, and that is what he meant by “liking” you. He means that he could kiss you, or lay with you, but not that he has feelings or anything like that. He could, in the future, fall in love with you, who knows, but for now I would just move on. I am now with an amazing guy, and at first he liked me and I just felt a small attraction towards him. I did the same, I didn’t call him back like for a month, and he simply moved on with his life. When I called him back I simply kept him as a friend and after many months I ended up falling for him. But he never for a second stopped living his life and always respected himself. So do the same, move on, enjoy yourself, if he comes back don’t be drooling all over him, just wait and see what happens. If he falls for you, he needs to man-up, and if not then you will find another man soon, believe me, there are plenty out there.
Btw… it’s funny that my new guy is not Czech, but has some Czech ancestry. Go figure.
I too am married to a Czech man. Sure could use some advice.
Thankyou to shared this….:)
I am with a CZ guy, and everything you wrote here is right.
They like fairy tale, and yes easy to bored thats why must outside atleast 2 hours per day, and yes like gossip.. worse than girls lol
But sometimes just comment… but only for fun… not serious… π
I know him probably 3 months ago,
But still confused now, why CZ guy can’t be romantic, he can sometime, but like he difficult to show it to me…(is it their culture? )
Somebody here can you help me or tell me guys, what should I do to make him happy or atleast show me his romantic side?
Because I am still blind about CZ guy. π
Wow. It’s seems as if your husband was almost ashamed of who he is. My husband is here in the US for about 8 years now. He makes quite a great deal of money as an archeitict. From the moment I met him he was nothing but proud of his culture, his family, and his home. I too have watched him develop into this very obviously, poor English speaking, eastern european man to a kind of american hybrid. But never was he ashamed or shy about who he was. Quite the opposite and it has made me proud to be the wife of a czech man.
I never knew I would fall in love with a Czech man and he also loves me. The only thing is, he is working in America for a couple of months and he has a son back in Moravia. I live in Texas. It is going to break our hearts when he has to fly back. I don’t understand why God brought us together just to rip us apart when he leaves. He says his son is his life and his work is his life. I don’t know what I’m going to do without him. I know he is feeling the same way. He doesn’t want to be an American. He is 100% Moravia. He is worried over his son because all 18 year old boys are drafted in the Army. My heart goes out to his son. I want a possible future with him. I feel he is trying to push me away thinking it will be easier to leave me when the time comes. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Sheila,
I can assure you that not everyone has to go to the army at 18. The times have changed so much and it is very easy to get out of the army duty in Czech. Why don’t you move to Czech with him?
Michaela
hi guys, just came across this.
im more intrigued with your story Jirka because i feel as if im heading towards the same direction <3
im an australian with asian back ground and i met my czech guy in bali.
we literally hit it off straight away, it was this feeling that we had never experienced before.
we still keep in contact and the feelings are still the same. his dream was to come to australia since he was 17.
i literally love everything about him and from reading information on czechs makes sense now. whilst the time getting to know each other i now know why he visits the cottage every weekend as well as hanging out with pub mates π
but anyway this czech guys so sweet, up front, very informative in what is going around the world and the list goes on. i guess only time will tell but ahhhhhhh im so attached <3
love the blog btw
thanks
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Im with a czech guy ryt now…we are ok in first 2weeks…but after sleeping with him i feel like he became different….he messaged me now once a day…unlike before….he chatted me everyday….i really dont like someone ignoring me on chat π we work in the same hospital..
For 5 months I’ve been dating a Czech immigrant in his 60s. He is intelligent, loving, and kind, wonderful in every way. Except–until recently he seemed reluctant to have me visit his home, etc. Things have changed slowly; I’ve visited him a couple of times, and it was fine (no, he is not married). But the slowness of the relationship progress was getting to me, and I pressed him to discuss it. He says his family members (some of whom live near him) would “freak out” if he had a girlfriend, because they’ve thought of him as a single guy for so long (I’m not sure how long–let’s say 20-30 years). These people all have their own lives and relationships, and some even have alternative lifestyles, so I doubt anyone would be shocked at Dad having a girlfriend. Is his attitude based in his upbringing (in a small farming village, pre-1968), or is this just a problem between him and me? Many thanks for your insights.
Thanks for the beautiful writeup. I’m American and moving to the Czech Republic. I hope I’ll find love and happiness and understanding too.
I met my Czech man in Jan of 1993. Married him in Feb of 1998 and still with him in Dec of 2016. It was and still is and hopefully always will be the greatest adventure of my life!