Comments on: The Japanese have it so much harder when it comes to a culture shock /Pro japonce je kulturni sok mnohem vice sokujici http://czechmatediary.com/2009/07/14/the-japanese-have-it-so-much-harder-when-it-comes-to-culture-shock/ Small Bohemian Steps to World Domination.... Wed, 23 May 2012 02:44:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Tanjahttp://czechmatediary.com/2009/07/14/the-japanese-have-it-so-much-harder-when-it-comes-to-culture-shock/comment-page-1/#comment-18540 Tanja Sun, 02 Aug 2009 14:42:02 +0000 http://czechmatediary.com/?p=5467#comment-18540 Hi MaryLena,Thank you! It is so interesting when you talk about the Japanese culture in comparison with the Czech one. I did not know that it is weird for them to hold hands in public. How about people who are dating? Is that considered to be strange too when they hold hands? Hi MaryLena,

Thank you! It is so interesting when you talk about the Japanese culture in comparison with the Czech one. I did not know that it is weird for them to hold hands in public. How about people who are dating? Is that considered to be strange too when they hold hands?

]]> By: MaryLena Anderegghttp://czechmatediary.com/2009/07/14/the-japanese-have-it-so-much-harder-when-it-comes-to-culture-shock/comment-page-1/#comment-18534 MaryLena Anderegg Sun, 02 Aug 2009 00:14:53 +0000 http://czechmatediary.com/?p=5467#comment-18534 Dear Nicola and Tanja, There is a lovely followup to my story...30 years later...we returned to Japan to visit with Akira and his family. His oldest son had returned to Japan last year and was married in the traditional civil ceremony manner. Then, the couple lived together as husband and wife and save money until they can afford a religious ceremony. They were saving for a large wedding. When the son learned we were coming for a visit, he went to his in-laws and asked their approval for a much smaller wedding so they could have it while we were there. He told his in-laws that his "American grandmother" was coming to Japan and he wanted us to be at their wedding. They had a beautiful ceremony at a gorgeous wedding chapel on the shores of the China Sea. And, PS, both Akira and his children are as big a huggers as we....even in Japan. In fact, he and the children often hold our hands in public...most unusual. Akira's American wife is partially responsible for that, I'm sure. I so enjoy the various outlooks on your blog, Tanja. Dear Nicola and Tanja,
There is a lovely followup to my story…30 years later…we returned to Japan to visit with Akira and his family. His oldest son had returned to Japan last year and was married in the traditional civil ceremony manner. Then, the couple lived together as husband and wife and save money until they can afford a religious ceremony. They were saving for a large wedding.
When the son learned we were coming for a visit, he went to his in-laws and asked their approval for a much smaller wedding so they could have it while we were there. He told his in-laws that his “American grandmother” was coming to Japan and he wanted us to be at their wedding. They had a beautiful ceremony at a gorgeous wedding chapel on the shores of the China Sea.
And, PS, both Akira and his children are as big a huggers as we….even in Japan. In fact, he and the children often hold our hands in public…most unusual. Akira’s American wife is partially responsible for that, I’m sure.
I so enjoy the various outlooks on your blog, Tanja.

]]> By: Tanjahttp://czechmatediary.com/2009/07/14/the-japanese-have-it-so-much-harder-when-it-comes-to-culture-shock/comment-page-1/#comment-18319 Tanja Wed, 15 Jul 2009 20:37:18 +0000 http://czechmatediary.com/?p=5467#comment-18319 Hi Nicola,I see what you are saying - am usually of a similar opinion, meaning that if someone moves/lives in America they should assimilate (learn the language etc...). But in this case, Akira was feeling really uncomfortable so they had to tone those hugs down a bit. And they still hug him so that is a compromise :)By the way, thank you for your wonderful compliment! Hi Nicola,

I see what you are saying – am usually of a similar opinion, meaning that if someone moves/lives in America they should assimilate (learn the language etc…). But in this case, Akira was feeling really uncomfortable so they had to tone those hugs down a bit. And they still hug him so that is a compromise :)

By the way, thank you for your wonderful compliment!

]]> By: Nicolahttp://czechmatediary.com/2009/07/14/the-japanese-have-it-so-much-harder-when-it-comes-to-culture-shock/comment-page-1/#comment-18315 Nicola Wed, 15 Jul 2009 07:42:50 +0000 http://czechmatediary.com/?p=5467#comment-18315 Dear Tanja, First of all my compliments to you for the awesome blog (I follow it every day very interested). About culture shock there is one (in my opinion) very wrong thing that I red in MaryLena's letter: The american family tryed to adapt to some japanese habits because their host was japanese. I think that if they are in America the japanese guy shouldn't pretend anything. He just should have to totally adapt to American culture. He cannot pretend an american family living in America to adopt japanese habits, it is not fair, not right, not good and totally non sense. Ciao. Dear Tanja,
First of all my compliments to you for the awesome blog (I follow it every day very interested).
About culture shock there is one (in my opinion) very wrong thing that I red in MaryLena’s letter: The american family tryed to adapt to some japanese habits because their host was japanese. I think that if they are in America the japanese guy shouldn’t pretend anything. He just should have to totally adapt to American culture. He cannot pretend an american family living in America to adopt japanese habits, it is not fair, not right, not good and totally non sense.
Ciao.

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